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Reframing your mindset

Since the Pandemic and all the changes that were brought about, the world has seen an increase in anxiety and mental health. BBC report showed that the, ‘coronvirus had fuelled feelings of […] anxiety and fears’ ‘(https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/explainers-55957105) Fears and anxiety can keep you in a stuck state. Sometimes your perspective of what you see or understand about your life may not be what you think you see and understand. For example, the picture below shows how often we only see half of a situation. Like the iceberg we only see a part, but what we don’t see is the other

How to stick with a goal when you want to give up!

Goal is a great word and has so many meanings. A goal in sports can be kicked, thrown up high, or hit over a net and so many other versions of sporting goals. The exhilarating feeling that comes when a goal is achieved increases a person’s heart rate, serotonin levels producing an euphoric state in the mind. Sports is a healthy activity for so many reasons. But there are other types of goals that may produce the same effect when achieved. Have you ever wanted to achieve something that you felt so passionate about. That all your thoughts are centred

Why choose to stay stuck, when you want to move forwards

Most of us live in our comfort zones. This may sound like a sweeping statement but who doesn’t like to feel comfortable in a safe familiar warm place. But guess what? Life wasn’t meant to be that way, particularly if you are someone who wants to move forward in your life and achieve something that may appear difficult. If that burning desire to achieve a goal did not push you forward in the direction you want to go, you might decide to give up! So how do we move ourselves from our comfort zone into the stretch zone, because that

How do we move past mind road blocks?

A brand new year gives us an opportunity to go for the goals that we wanted to achieve last year. No need to beat yourself up if you didn’t achieve these goals, but what’s important is not that you didn’t achieve them, but that you are not giving up and you are carry on in 2023. However, there are the mind road block fears that sometimes intimidate us? To name a few, changing career, returning to Uni, starting a new relationship or trying to lose weight. If road blocks in your life did not exist, what would you do, what

What to do when when you need a boost of confidence

What to do when you need a boost of confidence

“Your playing small does not serve the world”

Mandela once said, “your play small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that others will not feel insecure around you”. As a self development coach I am always encouraging women to release any barriers that are preventing them from achieving what they want in life. Barriers such as cycles of negative thinking or limiting beliefs that keep them in a stuck state, preventing them from making changes and moving forward in their life. However, when trying to make changes about ourselves, doing something new or different, i.e. changing our hair colour or our style

Dare to believe in your dreams

When I was a child of about 7 or 8 years, during the summer months I used to lie on the grass in our garden and stare up at the sky. I watched the clouds float by while creating dreams and images in my imagination. I don’t, of course, do this anymore, but whatever happened to our childhood dreams? I know what its like to have a goal or a dream that you’ve always wanted to achieve. The passion you feel in your heart and the images you create in your mind can help to keep that vision alive. However,

Can keeping a journal help you to know yourself?

Psychologists say that what we learn from our family, friends and the community contributes to the forming of our personality. Beliefs and impressions formed when we were children sometimes stay with us into adulthood. However, these beliefs may have the tendency to keep us in a stuck state, unable to develop, move forward in our lives and go for the goals and dreams we want. Something I have enjoyed doing for a number of years is keeping a journal. At the end of the day, depending on how tired I am, I like to write down my thoughts and feelings

How does your ‘model of the world’ impact on you and your goals?

I used to think that our heart was the most important part of us, but recently I have found out how the mind is equally important, if not more in some cases. Learning about how our thoughts can affect our behaviour has made a big difference in the way I live my life now. For example, our lives can be influenced by our individual ‘model of the world’. How we understand and react to our everyday experiences is influenced by what we learnt when we were children, about ourselves and the world around us. What we saw, heard and felt

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