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Here I come 2026!

Some of you may remember that as a child I was very shy and quiet. I never spoke much at school or even at home! But I knew I loved writing. Writing gave me a space where I could express myself, my thoughts, my feelings that take me to another place. Later I found writing my blogs enabled me to connect with other people. Over the last few years I have written on several topics and subjects about confidence and reaching for your best self. Who would have believed I would be making videos and posting online years later. Our

Self belief vs Self doubt

So which one is going to win? I have to admit, its a constant battle. Every day we all face a quiet tug of war in our minds. It’s not the words we say, the language we speak that controls the outcome of our success. Yes, you guessed right – its our THOUGHTS! Your thoughts are a million times more powerful that you realise, but be careful because when a negative thought enters your mind it becomes difficult to remove it! Challenging our negative thoughts Sometimes we may seem more likely to believe a negative thought than to believe the

Finding the POWER to be YOU!

Over the last 3 or 4 of months I have been creating a 2 hour workshop which has taken up most of my time. It is something I have wanted to achieve for a long time. Having worked with women in various groups, I recognise how we are all different in our personalities, skills and talents. However, one of the characteristics that some of us share is the lack of confidence in our abilities to move forward and make things happen in our life. Too often we think that we are not capable, or our ideas won’t work, or others

Are you a Summer person?

If your like me, I thrive so much more on brighter days when the sun shines. But during Autumn as the evening draws in and the clocks go back an hour, I feel a bit like a wilting flower and go into a state, lacking motivation. However, one day I found a quote that has really helped me to embrace, if not accept the season. “I welcome winter with open arms and embrace it as a familiar friend. Each season must have its turn and come full circle” . So if you’re like me, a Summer girl born in July,

Do you worry about what people think of you?

You would not be the only one. We all do this at various times in our lives. But why does it matter what people think? Why are we so concerned that it affects the way we feel about ourselves and act? Identifying who you want to become What you think of yourself is a million times more important than what other people think of you. So, stop worrying about what other people think and start thinking about who you want to become. I would suggest you create a list of words that describe you, and don’t be shy, write the

What can we learn from seasons in our life?

Our life might read like a novel with various chapters telling our story. It might also be described as seasons, from childhood through to adulthood. As we look back at these chapters and seasons we might discover what we have learnt. However, we can often be harsh on ourselves, noticing only the disappointment’s or mistakes, not appreciating how much we have actually grown, developed and moved on. Predicting the future So what can you take from each chapter or season that can increase your self worth? Removing blame I believe is a good place to start. Lack of self worth

Welcoming a new year where anything is possible

A new year brings what I like to call, another chance, another opportunity to create the life that you want. Its a feeling of newness where anything is possible. The idea that we have 12 months before we complete a goal for the year can create a feeling of “I have lots of time, a whole 12 months!” However, from personal experience those 12 months really do move fast and before you know it, the end of the year has arrived and you haven’t completed your goals. Or haven’t even started! Discovering who you are becoming So how can we

How can accepting your uniqueness increase self worth?

I was always taught to treat others with respect and kindness. While I appreciate the teachings of my family which have supported me throughout my life, I would have liked to hear more about treating myself with kindness and respect. As we have to live with ourselves everyday, its important that we like who we are! We are the only one who knows our thoughts, carries our ambitions, experiences sadness when we think we fail, and rejoices when we succeed. But how many of us really know and understand ourselves. Our individuality As a teenager, I felt so much emphasis

Reaching for the person you dream of becoming

‘Becoming is a forward motion, a means of evolving toward a better self’ Michelle Obama You were born to succeed! While this may sound like an sweeping statement, when I look back at my life and all my experiences, I see how the most difficult times have made me the person I am today. However, without certain qualities, challenging times can sometimes keep us back from progressing forwards to the person we want to be. Opposition in achieving your goals can either strengthen or weaken your resolve. To stand still with fear in our souls is crippling! Fear can keep

What does it mean to carry on when all appears lost?

As I watched the Lionesses win the European cup in 2022, I felt incredibly inspired. I wondered how did they keep that determination to win? Where did it come from? I observed the impact their coach, Sarina Wiegman, had on the way they performed. When they huddled together, they wanted to make her proud and the country too. It seemed that they had no doubt in their minds that they would win. The Thrill of the Game Although the Lionesses missed out on winning the World Cup this year, as runners up they can be every bit proud of all

How to embrace confidence and eliminate fear

Is there a connection between the brain and gut?

If someone told you that you have two brains, what would be your reaction? Your brain is the place where you reason, learn, come to an understanding and make a decision. However, in your gut (stomach area) you might feel a sensation, an assured feeling or in contrast a feeling of uncertainty. Science has shown how the gut can: “assist with higher cognitive functions like intuitive decision-making” (Brainfacts.org) When having to make a decision or proceed with a solution or idea, your stomach (gut) may create a feeling encouraging you to question your decision or choice. Have you ever felt

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