What to do when when you need a boost of confidence

Several years ago I went for a job interview working for a group of schools with children who had emotional and social difficulties. As I sat outside the interview room nerves began talking over and I had to give my self a ‘pep’ talk that went something like this:

‘When you go into the room Ruby, remember to sit up tall, shoulders back, make eye contact and smile pleasantly (but don’t grin). ‘Act as if’ you are the perfect person for this job. And if they don’t employ you, it will be a great loss to their organisation’.

As I entered the room there was not only one interviewer, but THREE! I tried not to let my legs buckle as I was invited to take a seat. I had no alternative but to immediately go into ‘act as if’ mode and became a completely different person to the nervous one waiting outside the interview room.

Guess what? I got the job!

There will be times when we might be feeling nervous or inadequate and feel that we fall short of what is required of us. Confidence is not something that will always stay with us. And while we might feel confident in one area of our life, this might not always transfer to other areas of our life. Because each situation we encounter may be different.

However, beating ourselves up can only lead to lowering our self-worth and affect our confidence. Being kinder and nurturing ourselves with kind thoughts, words, appreciation and love. Becoming our best friend not our worst enemy, will pave the way to even greater confidence. When we change our thinking, give each situation our best effort even while nervous, that we have done the best we can, given the circumstances, we can then be proud and appreciate all that we are.

‘Acting as if’ we are confident, brave and strong, is not faking it. In reality, the more you act it, the more you become a confident person, accepting who you are and what you have to offer the world!

If you are seeking new employment in 2023 or want to focus on identifying your strengths and building your confidence, contact me at :

ruby@confidentyou.today

And together we can translate your dreams and desires into reality for 2023!