Our life might read like a novel with various chapters telling our story. It might also be described as seasons, from childhood through to adulthood. As we look back at these chapters and seasons we might discover what we have learnt. However, we can often be harsh on ourselves, noticing only the disappointment’s or mistakes, not appreciating how much we have actually grown, developed and moved on.
Predicting the future
So what can you take from each chapter or season that can increase your self worth? Removing blame I believe is a good place to start. Lack of self worth in your abilities may cause you to blame yourself for experiences that did not go well. Or missed opportunities such as employment, education or relationships may cause you to doubt yourself. You cannot predict the future, you can only go on the knowledge and understanding which you have at the time. So no blame!
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them….let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao Tzu
For some, life may appear as a series of disappointments. However, looking back can often reveal several learning experiences and valuable lessons. We may not see these learning experiences at the time we are passing through them. Pain might be associated with them, overwhelming us, making it difficult to recognise the learning and the growth, that is stretching us to become our better selves.
Increase Self Love
Becoming harsh on yourself takes away your self worth, so be patient with yourself. However painful or difficult it may be, however long it takes to learn life’s lessons, which may not be the same for each person, as each is an individual.
As you age, the more you will understand your life experiences and seasons. But, looking back in hindsight and then deciding what you should have done instead is not really helpful. So be kinder to yourself and increase self love – not self loath. Because whatever season you are in, you are still learning and writing your beautiful story!
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